Sunday, April 18, 2010

Taking Time To Focus

I remember my husband having a book of pictures among his things when we got married. The pages didn't look like they had pictures on them, but once I focused on the middle of the page without being distracted by the splotches of seemingly random colors and shapes, a picture began to emerge and then that was all I could see. It took me awhile to learn to be patient enough and to learn the technique required to focus in on the photo, however.


Over the last few months, I've felt myself at the same place although the picture is much bigger and the "random splotches" are much more involved. Although it's a little fuzzy right now, the picture is emerging: I see children than need more loving shepherding and a home that needs more careful tending. I see a husband with which I want to spend more time, and some friends with which I want to sit down and connect in "real life". I see some family activities to be experienced. I see some phone calls I want to make and some "stationary and pen" letters I want to write. I see those craft and science kits my daughter got for Christmas that have never made it out of the cupboard because Mom has been busy. I see those games that are gathering dust in the top of the closet that my son forgot he had because Mommy hasn't had time to play them for awhile. I see that stack of board books in which my baby is gaining more interest but Mama hasn't read to him in the hustle and bustle of the busyness I call "life". I see a date night that is going to pass us by this month if I don't take the time to plan it.

 
I'm still trying to sort out the "random splotches" and the fuzzy picture, but for now, I'm limiting my time on the computer. I'm not giving up blogging, just taking a break for awhile. How long? I don't know, maybe a month, maybe the summer, maybe until after the baby is born. Like I said, the picture is still fuzzy and the random splotches are still kind of running into it. But I'll be back......when the picture is fully focused and my eyes can see the truly important again.



Tuesday, April 13, 2010

A Lesson I Learned Under My Kitchen Sink

It was 10:00 P.M., and I was tired. It had been a very busy day, and we had had company for dinner. Now I faced a kitchen piled with mounds of dirty dishes. I loaded up my faithful dishwasher and began filling up the sink to attack the remainder of the dishes.

It was then I realized that both sides of my sink were full of dirty water that refused to go down. With a sigh of frustration, I headed downstairs for a bucket. I mentioned in passing to my husband what I was doing, feeling proud of myself in advance for the excellent plumbing job I would accomplish. My dear husband knows me well after almost 11 years of being married to me, so he kindly stayed put to let me work my magic.

I was about 26 seconds into the job when the dirty water that had been in my sink began to spray all over me and the kitchen. I was 26.2 seconds into the job when I bravely and confidently called, "Help!" It didn't take my husband long to get there--I kind of got the idea he was expecting this.

He fixed the problem quickly, and I started in on the job of mopping up dirty water from my floor and under the sink. I was a bit embarrassed that I couldn't accomplish this minor task. I have a few friends who could do major plumbing jobs better than their husbands, yet I couldn't manage to fix my stopped up sink without having to renovate the kitchen. However, a few minutes later I proudly surveyed the clean, neat area under the sink and realized that I wasn't too bad at organizing the kitchen cupboards even if I was an awful plumber.


The lesson I learned was simply this: I wasn't supposed to fix the sink. Yes, I know, very profound. No, I'm not creating a stereotype about household plumbing being a "man's job" (if I were, a few of my friends' husbands would be in trouble!). However, I must realize that some things in life are things that I cannot do well (or in this case, at all).

That mom that keeps perfect scrapbooks of her children's special moments? I applaud her creativity, but that's not me. The homeschool mom that actually looks forward to the volcano experiment in science? Let's just say, I shudder to think of it!

I could list a lot of things I can't do because I'm not wired that way, but there is really no point to that. The main thing to take away from under the sink (besides that mountain of 362 plastic grocery bags) is that I need to focus on the things I can do well--not the things others can do well. 

Now please excuse me while I go peek under my sink again...this accomplishment has been a long time in coming!

Tuesday, April 6, 2010

Taking A Break Today

Hello, dear readers!

I just found out that the new issue of Exemplify Magazine is up on the site and my article is featured in it. So, if you need something to read from me today, go here and check out my article (back page of the magazine) along with some great articles by other contributors.

As far as a blog post, I am taking a little time to enjoy family and the spring weather this week. I hope to post again Friday as usual.

Thanks for stopping by!
Jennifer

Friday, April 2, 2010

Are We Worshipping Idols?

I remember many sermons regarding the first commandment, especially to teens when I fit that age category, that went something like this:

"We are not to put anything ahead of God. Perhaps for you, it is a car that you have or would like to have that is more important than God. Or maybe you are putting a sports figure, celebrity or friend's ideas and opinions ahead of God. If so, those can be an idol to you." 

While I agree that we can make idols out of those things, even as adults, I believe the idolatry in our culture is affecting us on a deeper level than just a few material possessions or the latest People magazine cover sensation.

The amount of false doctrine propagated among even the Christian community in America today is scary to me. Who would have ever thought our belief system could blend so easily with that of the Hindu or the Muslim or the Buddhist? We shake our heads at the repeated idolatry of the Israelites in the Old Testament, but are we really any different? Let me explain.

In the Garden of Eden, Adam and Eve tried to become "gods", were removed from paradise and began the process of death in our world. In Noah's day, the same attitude prevailed. The Bible says they "did what was right in their own eyes". They were destroyed by the Flood. Although these are the two catastrophic events that affect us, down through history the same cycle repeated and I believe is still being repeated, in sometimes subtle ways, today.

Today "doing right in our own eyes" is called "whatever works for you" or "whatever makes you feel good". Satan makes sure that this message is more hidden for the Christian community so we don't recognize it as easily.

We read or hear someone mention "God" and think that it means they ascribe to Christianity and the Creator. However, God is simply used as a generic term for whatever your belief system is.

"Meditating" is another term that is often used. It sounds so Biblical, right out of the Psalms. It's right up there with prayer. However, meditating by focusing on ourselves instead of God is the very essence of making gods of ourselves.

Why am I talking about this on a blog for Christian women? Because it consumes the popular ideas touted in most magazines written for wives and mothers today, even some Christian publications. We are to teach our children "self-esteem" which sounds noble, but is really a way to teach them that loving themselves and expressing themselves is their model for happiness rather than esteeming others.

Mothers are encouraged to spend our days in a quest for "me time" when Christ's example was to pour Himself out for others.

We hear a lot about "simplifying your life", which is a good idea for most of us, however when it means to remove everything stressful or unpleasant from your life, it can be just another way to serve ourselves. If Jesus would have done this, we would not have salvation today. If Paul and the other apostles had done this, we would have no Bible or church.

"Natural health and fitness" sounds like a return to God's ways for us, and in some cases it is, but often when one reads a health magazine, it is full of Eastern religious practices disguised as exercise and "alternative medicine".

How do we protect ourselves from these subtle messages that are so contrary to God's Word when carefully examined? God gave the formula to Joshua before he began a series of battles with heathen countries to claim the land God had given them. He told him:
This book of the law shall (be constantly in) thy mouth; but thou shalt meditate therein day and night, that thou mayest observe to do according to all that is written therein: for then thou shalt make thy way prosperous, and then thou shalt have good success.
In order to recognize the Truth and the opposite of Truth, we must totally immerse ourselves in the Truth, talking about it and thinking about and doing it. When we do that, all falseness will be clearly and immediately evident.