Friday, June 1, 2012

In Loving Memory


"He will wipe away every tear from their eyes, and death shall be no more, neither shall there be mourning, nor crying, nor pain anymore, for the former things have passed away." Revelation 21:4, ESV

The LaVans


As many of you know, Mrs. Dorothy Lynn LaVan, mother-in-law of Joanna, was killed in an automobile accident on Tuesday, May 29. We ask that you will continue to pray for Mr. LaVan, Lori, Luke, Joanna, and the rest of the family. 



To view the obituary, click below:
Bowser-Minich Funeral Home, Indiana, Pennsylvania 

Because of this tragedy, and because Jennifer will not have access to a computer much of this weekend, regular blog posts are on hold until Monday. Thank you for understanding!

Wednesday, May 30, 2012

How to Have a Ministry Outside of the Box

The complaint usually comes in one of two ways. Sometimes it's the plaintive sigh from the mom on the playground as she looks over at her children giggling on the swings. "I just don't have a ministry right now. My life is on hold until the kids get in school." Other times, it is the woman at church who gives the self-deprecating excuse, "I would love to minister for the Lord, but I don't have any talents."

There are a few things that we tend to forget about ministry:

1. A minister is a servant.  Glamorous? No. Eye-catching? Hardly. Being a minister is reaching down to the lowliest and asking, "How can I serve you today?" It is scrubbing dirty, tired feet. It is in the tedious details of service with the likelihood that few but the Master will ever notice.

2. Ministry is not about us.  In a day when pastors, singers, writers and Bible teachers are given celebrity status; it is easy to lose focus of what the purpose of ministry is. If a ministry does not point to Christ, giving Him every bit of the glory, it is just a sham. Also, if ministry begins to be more about "fans" than service to others, it has lost the very core of its definition.


3. The chief Example of ministry is Jesus. About 90% of Jesus' life was lived in obscurity. Other than his Birth and two childhood temple incidents, we know nothing of His life before His public ministry. When he did begin ministry, he primarily focused on 12 men. Much of the mere 3 years He spent ministering consisted of opposition from the church leaders of the day and their plot to kill Him. Even He, Creator of the universe, kept the focus off of Himself as He ministered to those around Him.

So, you are a woman who loves the Lord? Maybe you are a single woman living at home, a married woman or a mother. Maybe your children are all grown or you are raising them as a single mom. Whatever your circumstances, here are a few ways to recognize the ministry God has given you:

  • Determine your season of life. If you are a mom of small children, you are probably not supposed to head the women's ministry, the choir and the youth group at the same time. God has given these little ones to you for such a short time and they are your ministry! If you are a grandmother, you may have the time and experience to devote to more pursuits.
  • Inventory the gifts you already have.  Many times, if a woman isn't a born teacher or a natural singer, she feels she has little use in the church. Teaching and singing are just two of a myriad of ways one can minister for the Lord to others. Maybe you have a passion for baking. God may just call you to bake some cookies for a new neighbor or the older person at church. Or maybe you love to talk on the phone. You may be just the one to call those that weren't able to be in church due to illness and encourage them.
  • Remember that your ministry is unique. God calls each of us to different things because we are all different. I have a friend that does yard work for elderly people and those that cannot do it themselves. Another friend sends sweet notes of encouragement to those that are going through a rough time while holding them up to the Lord in prayer. Others minister by opening their homes in hospitality, their bank accounts to those with genuine need and their schedules to sit with a lonely person.
I'll never forget a story that a pastor told once about a person in his church who claimed she had no ministry. He told her to buy a bouquet of flowers and take it to the hospital and pass them out one at a time to the patients while telling them Jesus loved them. The lady took his advice and had a beautiful ministry for many years.

Who knows what God can do with us if we think outside the box of church walls to minister within the circle of our great globe filled with needy people? 

Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Are They Prepared?

The proud, solemn, measured march, the colorful gown, mortarboard and tassel, and that precious piece of paper. Graduation Day is one of the highlights of life, a huge accomplishment. Twelve long years of cramming facts into one's head, and learning lessons that will last a lifetime are behind those excited students, and they feel ready to take on the world!


Whether your child has attended a public school, private school, or homeschool, when they finish the state's requirements for graduation, they're considered ready to be sent out into the world. They've learned all they need to learn in order to either proceed into college or on to their life's work.


But...are they ready? Have they been prepared in the ways that matter? So often, I'm afraid, we think that just because someone is a "good girl or boy", and just because they've gone to church every time the doors were open and had devotions every day, that they're ready                      for anything and everything that life has to throw at them. Not so.

"But sanctify the Lord God in your hearts: 
and be ready always to give an answer to every man 
that asketh you a reason of the hope that is in you 
with meekness and fear."  
 1Peter 3:15 (KJV)

These young people need to know their Bible through and through. They need to know how to study it and understand it. Will they know how to respond when they face questions and criticism from those who try their best to undermine and destroy their faith? Will they be able to stand on the firm foundation of Scripture? Or will they fall? Will the fragile little belief system and pat, memorized answers support them? Hardly. 

I speak from experience. During my growing-up years,I attended a Christian school. (And I'm very grateful that my grandparents sacrificed so much so that I could go there.) Along with the regular subjects, I learned how to dress, talk, and act, and I learned to parrot nice little cliches and phrases like a pro. On the outside, I looked like the epitome of a good girl with a firm, biblical foundation upon which to stand.  But on the inside, I was confused. If I had been pinpointed, I could never have given a sound, scriptural reason for why I believed what I believed, or why I did the things I did. Oh, I could have parroted the things I'd heard/memorized, but I didn't have a good grip of even some of the basic teachings of the Bible.

I've witnessed this over and over. Parents expect the church and the Christian school to teach their children what they need to know. These children aren't properly discipled by anyone, let alone their parents, and then they're shoved out into the world with either no foundation at all, or one that is so weak it will crumble at the slightest nudge. It's time we, as parents, stopped being lazy about the most important area in our children's lives. It's our duty to not only live the life of a Christian in front of them every day, but also to be sure that we ourselves know enough to teach them what they need to know to defend their faith. It's the most important subject they'll learn.


Genesis 1:1, the story of Creation,  is the most basic of these, as nearly every other doctrine hinges that passage of Scripture. Here's an example of what I mentioned earlier; I only realized how important the teaching of the literal 6 day creation was in the last three or four years. I had no idea how vital it is to the very core of what we believe. But it is! That's just an example. There are many other issues, and, to be honest, I'm still trying to remedy that lack of knowledge. I have so much to learn. Education isn't everything, I know, and too much education and not enough faith can ruin a person. But it's wrong to use that as an excuse to be lazy about spiritual matters.


Another example is the subject of worldview. Until a few years ago, I really didn't even know what a worldview was. What is your worldview? Is it more secular than you think?  It's so important that you know how to shape your worldview according to the Bible!

I guess I've said all that to say this. Don't leave it all up to the preacher or the teacher. YOU are the parent. You teach them the Bible. Be sure they have the answers they need, and a firm foundation upon which to stand before they step out into the "real world". It's wonderful for them to make high grades in their academic subjects, but it's far more important that they make an "A" in the study of Scripture, and the knowledge of how to apply God's Word in all of the situations they'll undoubtedly face.

Send them out...prepared.







Monday, May 28, 2012

Remembering on Memorial Day

He's fun-loving and, truth be told, a little ornery. He loves to make people laugh, and he only stops moving when he is sleeping. He's our little Joey---the baby. He's also our little memorial. A strange word to describe a small person who has lived in our household for less than two years. The dictionary describes memorial as "preserving the memory of a person or thing," 

When we were trying to decide on a name for yet another boy joining our family, we pieced together memories of those gone from us and gave our youngest the solemn duty of calling us to remember three special people from our history every time we called his name. Two of them served our country so it is fitting to share their stories on Memorial Day. One of them never got a chance to serve, yet he fought his own battles and forged freedoms of a different kind. 

*****


Source
Family albums full of dark hair. I study the pictures and try to see glimpses of my husband's heritage. "He looks so much like my brother," my mother-in-love tells me. I fail to see my husband's blond head mirrored in the photos. At my quizzical glance, she says, "You didn't meet my brother that fought in the war." She unwraps the story of the young man due home in a few weeks, and how he stayed behind to work while his buddies left to grab a cup of coffee. Then of the explosion that shattered more than the life of a young man. She, a young girl yet, watching her mama's grief as her empty arms grasped a folded flag instead of her boy home and safe. We can wonder what might have been, but it is futile. So, we remember.



Source
I study my own mama's album. Blond hair again---so white blond it's laughable when looking at the dark hair of my grandparents and my own mother. "You didn't meet my brother, "she tells me. "I barely remember him myself." She unwraps another story about a nine-year-old boy we remember as "Joey".  How he walked the streets and visited the teacher's desk, asking, "Can I tell you about my Jesus?" The straining of a mama to save her little boy from the fire raging in his little play house and the scarring of hearts as the pain burned for years after. The tears of a teacher who wouldn't hear of Jesus from the student in front of her desk but whispered His name as she stood in front of a small closed box at the funeral parlor. Again, we could wonder what might have been, but all we can really do is remember


Source
I lean down to gaze into the eyes that don't really see me. The white blond hair of his son's photos fades to silver white on his own head. He is nearing ninety as I near his chair. "Hi, Grandpa!" He doesn't remember. Not me, his first grandchild or my mama, his first and only daughter. He no longer recalls his wife of over 50 years or the years of service he traded for our freedom. I grasp his hand....still tangible. As are my memories...memories of what has been. The ones I'll tell my little Joey about the men he is named for. So that he will remember, too.






Who are you remembering this Memorial Day?









Saturday, May 26, 2012

Weekend Reflections: Memorial Day Edition


Source
Kelly Strong

I watched the flag pass by one day.
It fluttered in the breeze.
A young Marine saluted it,
and then he stood at ease.
I looked at him in uniform
So young, so tall, so proud,
He'd stand out in any crowd.
I thought how many men like him
Had fallen through the years.
How many died on foreign soil?
How many mothers' tears?
How many pilots' planes shot down?
How many died at sea?
How many foxholes were soldiers' graves?
No, freedom isn't free.

I heard the sound of TAPS one night,
When everything was still
I listened to the bugler play
And felt a sudden chill.
I wondered just how many times
That TAPS had meant "Amen,"
When a flag had draped a coffin
Of a brother or a friend.
I thought of all the children,
Of the mothers and the wives,
Of fathers, sons and husbands
With interrupted lives.
I thought about a graveyard
At the bottom of the sea
Of unmarked graves in Arlington.
No, freedom isn't free.

We take far too much for granted. On Memorial Day, take some time to think of the price that has been paid for your freedom. 



Looking Back...
Here's what we talked about this week:

From the Archives...
Looking Ahead... 

Next Week 
Jennifer will share a memorial day post on Monday and the devotional on Wednesday, I (Jessica) will try to make your load a little easier by sharing some helpful links with you on Tuesday, Joanna will share with us on Thursday. Since I'm not sure what the "boss" has in mind for Friday, I'll just encourage you to come find out! :)  

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The Family that Works Together as a Team











Friday, May 25, 2012

The Family that Works as a Team

In our family, we try to emphasize that we are a team, not just a group of individuals. I remind my children of this when there is a skirmish, but especially when there are chores to be done. Some of the time I get, "That's not my job!" or "Why do I have to do it?"

This week, though, I must say our team did a pretty great job. My husband had surgery which necessitated my being gone for most of the day at the hospital with him. My dear parents took care of my kids. When I brought my husband home that evening, my daughter had done nearly all the laundry. She knew it needed to be done and the team member that normally did it was not there, so she stepped in.

My husband was restricted on lifting, so our whole family went out to do the yard work that he normally does efficiently by himself. He did what he could while the rest of us were his "lifters". This is an example of working as a team for a common goal.

When my friends from Eternal Encouragement gave me a choice of several items to review for my Gabby Moms assignment, I jumped at the chance to review the Chores Bundle. I feel like I always need help on reinforcing our "team effort" on chores!

The truth is, I am still enjoying this product. I read all of the e-books, however I am still listening to the audios. Our "team" is not often quiet enough for me to listen to something!

I got so many neat ideas from the Chores bundle e-books. I loved seeing the sample chore lists and systems that Lorrie uses for her family. It was so helpful to see what I could expect of each age of child. I won't spoil it for you by telling you what is in the book, but here is what all is included:


  • Audios
    • God Blesses This House, But He Doesn't Clean It
    • God Blesses This House, But He Doesn't Organize It
    • 12 Super Simple Time-Saving Tips
    • Cheerful Children and Challenging Chores
  • E-Books
    • Neat and Tidy Tried and True Organization Tips
    • Turn Housework Into Fun and Games!
  • E-Booklet
    • Keep It Clean and Toxin-Free
This bundle is over a $100 value and usually sells for a quarter of that. However, you can have a chance to win your own copy! It's not too often that Eternal Encouragement gives the items to us Gabby Moms and to one of our readers as well. All you have to do to enter is click through to this giveaway form let them know where you heard about the giveaway. This giveaway will end Thursday, May 31 at 9:00 P.M. EST. The winner will be announced June 1st.

Hope you win!



Disclaimer: I received a copy of the giveaway item for review purposes and received no other compensation for the review. All opinions are mine.


Thursday, May 24, 2012

Diploma Cookies

With Graduation Season fast approaching, I thought I would share this recipe with you so you could make them for YOUR favorite Grad! :0)  As your baking them you can go down memory lane and recall all those fun days with your little one.  Now you're onto a new phase in life and will be making new memories.  Happy Baking!
 Ingredients:
2 egg whites
1 tablespoon fresh lime or lemon juice
1/2 cup sugar
1/2 cup all-purpose flour
1/3 cup butter, melted
1 pound vanilla-flavored candy coating (almond bark)
Decorate with a narrow ribbon in school colors

Directions:
Heat oven to 350°F. Lightly spray cookie sheets with no-stick cooking spray. Generously butter handle of wooden spoon. Set aside.

Combine egg whites and lime juice in large bowl. Beat at high speed until foamy. Continue beating, gradually adding sugar, until glossy and stiff peaks form. Gently stir in flour and butter.

Spoon 2 teaspoon batter onto prepared cookie sheet; evenly spread batter to 3-inch circle. Repeat with remaining batter, placing only 3 cookies on each cookie sheet. (Do not reuse cookie sheets without first washing and reapplying no-stick cooking spray.)

Bake for 5 to 8 minutes or until edges just begin to brown. Immediately shape cookies by wrapping around buttered handle of wooden spoon. Gently remove from cookie sheet; cool completely.

Melt candy coating in 1-quart saucepan over low heat, stirring occasionally, until melted (3 to 4 minutes). Carefully dip each end of cookie in coating. Gently shake cookie to remove excess coating. (Cookies are very fragile.) Place on waxed paper until coating is set (15 minutes). Repeat with remaining cookies and coating.